How to tease your crush

We give you all the best tips and methods to create fireworks by teasing

To tease your crush is one of the best ways to create attraction and sexual tension when interested in someone.

When you tease your crush, start small to make sure he is on the same page and that he gets your sense of humor.

The crash – course on how to tease your crush

You tease your crush by breaking rapport, for example, playfully disagreeing with something he says.

Observe things that are important to him and make fun of them.

Try to put him in a humorous stereotype.

When he teases you back, you can touch him and be a bit physical; for example, lightly hit him on the arm.

Why does teasing your crush work?

To get close to someone, we build rapport. We share things about ourselves and find out things about them, and we discover things we have in common.

This is how humans get closer. But a conversation like that doesn’t necessarily create fireworks. Being straightforward in your communication can be a bit vanilla. You don’t pose a challenge to the man in question.

You become a challenge

Enter the game of teasing. When you tease someone, you break rapport. He has to defend himself and some of his values.

Teasing your crush is especially important when you flirt with a man. Men like a challenge, but it’s not always clear how to be a challenge. One way to be a challenge to him is to tease him. This way, you will keep him guessing, and he will never feel safe around you; in a good way. He will know that you stand your ground.

For more similar strategies to create amazing attraction, check out our article How to create sexual tension with a man.

How to tease your crush?

There are many ways to tease someone, but they all have in common that you say or do something unexpected.

You don’t provide him with a predictable answer. Instead, you take the conversation in another direction. You disagree with his statement, or you make a teasing observation about him. Another way to tease a man is to playfully mock something that is important to him. (For example, eating healthy or focusing on his career.)

You want to evoke emotions

Teasing is about evoking an emotional response in your crush. You don’t want him to flat-line around you.

You want to keep him on his toes, never knowing what to expect from you.

Put him in a box

One example of teasing is stereotyping your crush in a humorous way. If he is a lawyer, he is uptight, etc.

Whatever you know about him, take that to the extreme. Accuse him of being nerdy, or too serious, or too ambitious. Just make sure you do it in a fun and light-hearted way. (You want to tease him, not insult him.)

Put up an obstacle between the two of you

Tell him things will never work out between the two of you, and make sure you tell him why. The reason why things can never work out should be something that makes the two of you different.

Disagree with some of the things he says. You can disagree even if you agree with what he says. If he says hard work is important, tell him that you like to lay around on a sunbed and drink Pina Colada all day, but that you will be thinking about him being a slave at the office. 

Start out small

We know how to tease people who are close to us. Since they know us, they will understand that we are not completely serious, and they will appreciate the effort and play along.

Together with someone new, you don’t have a clearly established baseline, so he might not get your teasing right away.

Start small, and when both of you get the hang of it, you should push things further. Teasing someone is both a good way to test if there is chemistry and to create chemistry.

Observer him

Teasing someone is seeing him for what he really is and having a bit of fun with it.

When you view teasing this way, it’s actually surprisingly intimate. You show him that you get him.

You also show him that he can’t expect admiration from you all the time. He has to work for it.

You show him that you get him

Make sure you watch him closely to figure out who he is and what’s important to him. Try to really get to the core of his persona. When you know things about him, you can playfully showcase that knowledge by teasing him about those things.

You can tease him for eating healthy, working out, or being very dedicated to his work.

You have to be brave

Teasing your crush might not create the sparkly chemistry you were hoping for. He might not think your teasing is funny. He might be offended or just not get it—no need to worry.

To tease someone successfully, you have to be brave. You have to risk rejection and creating a bad mood. By teasing, you do or say something unexpected, and sometimes a bit mean, (but in a playful way), and this strategy is indeed risky.

You will not succeed every time, but the effect is electric when you do, so the risk is absolutely worth the potential reward.

Keep the eye contact

To increase the amount of sexual chemistry when you tease your crush, hold eye contact for a bit longer than what feels comfortable. Also, combine your teasing with big smiles and plenty of laughs. Teasing your crush should be a fun and lighthearted affair.

You can also tease him by being a bit physical. Hit him lightly or push him a bit. You can even wrestle with him. An example of when you can utilize these moves is when he disagrees with something you say.

Do you want to do a deep dive into the art of making someone fall for you? Make sure you read our article How to make someone fall in love with you, apply all the tips and watch the magic happen.

Embrace the double meaning

Teasing someone in a flirty way is also about being comfortable with the presence of sex. Tell him what you fantasize about and what you would like to do with him. Put some obstacles in the way for this to happen.

Tease him in a way that makes him feel attractive and irresistible. Be mad at him for what he makes you feel.

If the two of you are not intimate, you can still create an intimate atmosphere by misunderstanding something he says as a more sexual statement than what it is.

Say something along the line with “We are not there yet.” “You are moving too fast.” “You don’t know me, and you are already thinking about that.”

Mix things up

You should tease your crush. But you should also give him plenty of compliments. If you only tease him, he might feel defensive around you. So, make sure he knows the things you admire about him.

Also, combine your teasing with deeper questions and more intimate conversations.

Teasing is one part of flirting, but you need to combine your teasing with other flirting- technics so that he doesn’t view you as an annoying little sister. Another important thing is to emotionally connect with the man in question. If you are wondering how to do this, read our article How to get a man to be vulnerable.

Tease your crush by understanding humor

Teasing someone is about showcasing your sense of humor. Everyone likes a good laugh. Laughing together is one of the biggest ways humans connect. There are different ways to “do” humor. All of them are usually present, in one way or another, when you successfully tease your crush.

Callback humor

Make sure you remember statements he has said earlier, and refer back to them in a playful and fun way. If he makes fun of himself, pick up the ball and tease him for exactly that quality.

Self-deprecating humor  

When you tease someone, make sure you are also making fun of yourself. Give him some “dirt” on you by using self-deprecating humor. You want him to be teasing you back. You want your conversations to be a witty boxing game.

Don’t block

This strategy is famous in stand-up comedy. Basically, if someone tries to take the piss off you, never get into an argument by contradicting their statement. Always take their statement and run with it and make it “worse”. If someone teases you for being poor, tell them that you are bringing home the leftovers.

Never argue with the teaser. Always embrace the game. Rise the stakes even more.

Watch Tv shows

To improve your ability to tease, take a masterclass from the best. Both “Friends” and How I meet your mother,” are great examples of teasing between friends, and also on how to tease your crush.

Understanding the how

Don’t just watch these shows; observe how they tease each other to show attraction and create sexual tension. You can even steal some of the lines and try and use them in your real life. Practice makes perfect.

The more you understand how teasing works, the better you will become.

How to tease your crush over text

To tease your crush over text, don’t always go along with what he is saying. Playfully disagree with some of his points and put in a flirty smiley, so he knows you are not totally serious. You can also use the different techniques I mentioned above by adapting them to text messages.

The best and most effective way to tease someone is IRL, so make sure you meet up with him, have fun, and tease him.

A final note

Teasing your crush is a great technique and a skill you should work towards improving. The best way to tease someone is to have fun and thoroughly enjoy yourself while you do it. If your crush doesn’t get it, tell him you are only teasing him and make that part of the play.

Practice your teasing skill with everyone around you to become a master, and when you have a crush, you just do the same, but with little more sensual undertones.