What Do Older Guys Like In Bed – 10 Excellent Tips

All the best-kept secrets to blow his mind

Older guys often have a more refined taste when it comes to their desire in the bedroom. They know who they are and what they like, but they are also surprisingly open to experimenting. Are you sleeping with an older guy? Or thinking about sleeping with an older guy? Most likely you will have asked yourself the question “what do older guys like in bed?”

Since I have slept with my fair share of older guys, I thought it suitable to make a list of the top 10 things I have discovered when it comes to older guys and sex.

Without further ado, let’s jump in.

1. Older guys like you being comfortable with yourself, him and sex

Older guys appreciate a woman who is comfortable with their body and with their sexuality.

So, when you sleep with an older guy, don’t put yourself down. Instead, flaunt what you got and be proud of your amazing body. Allow him to see the whole of you. He will be turned on by your confidence.

Be yourself, be expressive

With an older guy, there is no point in playing shy or being coy. The older men get, the more they appreciate a woman who is comfortable around sex.

Don’t second guess yourself, if you want something, go for it. An older man can take it when you are a bit dominating.

Be comfortable with him

Also, be comfortable with the fact that he is indeed older. Those wrinkles, he cannot change them, so no need for you to point out the negative aspects of his looks. Don’t even joke about him being a silver fox. Accept him for who he is and what he looks like. No dad-jokes.

Give naughty talk a try

Not every man will like naughty talk. But it’s worth giving it a try. Start small by telling him how good his hands feel and how much it turns you on when he does X.

Naughty talk is just another way for you to show that you are comfortable with the presence of sex. Older guys will appreciate that you are comfortable with sex, that’s the best way to wow them in bed. You can show this by being a bit verbally expressive.

Being a bit verbal also puts both of you in the moment.

Sex is about all senses. Smell and touch are easy to get into the experiences, but anything auditory adds another dimension.

2. Older guys like to get to know you on a deeper level

Men get an unfair reputation for being all about a quick “wham bam thankyou ma’am.”

This could not be further from the truth. The older a guy gets, the more he appreciates the person connected to the vagina.

He wants to get to know the real you. This is actually a huge turn-on for most older guys. They want a strong emotional connection. The stronger the mental connection, the better the sex will feel.

Casual sex is not as desirable anymore

A lot of older guys have had their fair share of casual sex, they know what that feels like. Now they are looking for that extra something.

What they secretly desire is sensual closeness. Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable and share who you really are. Read our article What makes a man open up to a woman, those tips will surprisingly enough make you better in bed. for who we truly are, this is actually a huge turn-on for most people and especially for older guys.

You can also read How to appear vulnerable to a man, since a man will be more tunred on when he gets to know the real you.

Instead of handing out a quickie, try to seduce him as slowly as you possibly can. Seduce him with words, pictures and with questions.

3. Older guys like your playfulness and youthful fire

Let’s say you are on the younger side and sleeping with an older guy. One thing he for sure will like in the bedroom is you being your genuine playful self.

Don’t try to act or behave more maturely than you are. He wants your youth. I know it sounds a bit harsh. But youth is a big turn-on for most people. Just look at pop culture, it’s all about sex and young people and that ideal has shaped all of us.

Be exciting and fun

You don’t have to be young to be young at heart. Being young is a mentality. It’s about willingness to experiment and excitement and enthusiasm.

We do become a bit set in our ways as we get older. And you are not older, just yet.

Don’t be a bore, instead let him know your eagerness and youthful fire. He will appreciate all that passion and energy you bring to the interaction.

Check out our article about pros and cons with dating an older man.

4. Older guys like to do something they have never done before

On that note, just because he is older, don’t assume he has all the experience in the world. He is probably attracted to you because he secretly wishes that you will bring something completely new to the table.

Bring out the unexpected

We are all, to a certain extent, attracted to youthfulness. But what we really long for is a willingness to expand our horizons and try new things. We want to be challenged. Some of us want to experiment, just for the fun of it.

Ask him, point blank, if there are sexual activities and kinks he has never done but would like to try.

Check out our list 13 Things guys like in bed but won’t ask for, for more naughty ideas.

5. Older guys are definitely in the “No drama please” camp

No matter how old your guy is, he will have gone through things. He has already experienced enough drama for a lifetime. Maybe even a messy divorce. The last thing he wants to do is to add drama to his life.

Be both firm and carefree

Older guys are much better at spotting potential drama, both inside and outside of the bedroom.

To avoid drama, it’s important that you know what you want and needs. There is nothing wrong with asking for your needs. If you communicate clearly any decent man will want to make you happy.

Don’t resort to manipulative techniques such as trying to make him jealous. How you act outside of the bedroom will affect his experience inside the bedroom.

If you are carefree, stay true to that part of your personality. To be a drama-free person is about knowing yourself and your boundaries.

6. Older guys like it when you are showing them your desire

We all want to feel sexy. This is true for men as well. This is especially true for older guys. Most older guys have been in long-term relationships where the sex has completely died out. A lot of older guys doubt their sexual powers. They don’t feel sexy at all.

I have told different older guys that they are sexy. Most of them responded, “No one has ever told me that before.”

Tell him why you find him attractive

Make a list of all the things you like about him and all the things that make you horny about him. Sprinkle those compliments during your interactions. His lovemaking to you will as a result reach new orgasmic heights. Nothing is a bigger aphrodisiac than being desirable.

Think about the things he appreciates about himself. For example; being a good leader. Tell him that you think it’s sexy that he is a good leader.

Or if he is kind and considerate. Tell him that it is a huge turn-on for you that he is such a kind person. Tell him that it makes you wet.

Complement him and tie those compliments to your sexuality. This is was every man wants to hear. This is what older guys in particular like in bed. Since they start to doubt their sexual powers the older they get.

7. Older guys like it when you share your secret wishes

Do you have a kink you never tried? Handcuffs? A blindfold? Dressing up like a sexy secretary and obeying your boss? Dominating your lover by giving him orders?

Whatever your fantasy is, I can guarantee that your older guy wants to hear about it.

Older guys are more comfortable around sexual kinks

A younger guy might not be ready for everything you want, but any older guy has enough life experience to handle almost anything. Older guys are also much more willing to extend themselves to satisfy you. For most older guys it is all about female satisfaction and nothing makes him hornier than seeing you hornier than you’ve ever been before.

8. Older guys like it when you take his advice

Men like to play the hero.

Older guys especially like to teach you new things. Being able to do this boost their ego. They feel valued. They feel that their life experience and sexual experience are being put to use.

It’s important to know that men are constantly judged by their performance. It’s not strange that you taking their advice is a huge turn-on for any man. When he gives you advice he is performing. He is being a man.

Ask him for instructions

Ask him how he likes you to give him a blowjob. Harder? Slower? Looking him into his eyes. Dressed in sexy lingerie? Satisfying older guys in bed is about marrying his desire with your desire and create scenes that are unique to the two of you.

Ask him about pretty much anything and obey his instructions. He will feel like Superman.

A woman who listens and who respects him is every man’s wet dream. By taking his advice you show him that you do indeed respect him.

9. Older guys like sexting

Ok, all guys like sexting.

But if you find yourself in bed with an older guy, chances are that he has not yet experienced all the upsides of modern technology. He might have never received a nude or a sexy message. He has never watched a video clip of his lover masturbating. You can be the first one to introduce all of this to him. Just do a bit of Snapchat and you will find out exactly wha drives older guys wild in bed. Not to worry, he will tell you exactly what he is hoping for.

If you feel uncomfortable going all in, just send him a semi-sexy picture of yourself and a description of what you would like to do with him.

Get under his skin, sexually speaking

It’s always fun to play with the forbidden. Do send him a sexy message while he is at work. Describe how much you enjoy his various skills and how much you look forward to the evening. Great sex doesn’t start in the bedroom. Great sex start in the mind. You can infiltrate his mind with your sexual powers. All women have this capacity, especially when it comes to a man who is attracted to them.

10. Older guys like it when you take the initiative

As men get older, they can get a bit tired of being the sexual instigator.

An older man has taken a lot of initiative during his lifetime. He has instigated sex a 100 times so what he would like is for you to seduce him. This behavior is more attractive for an older man than it would be for a younger man.

He will be turned on by you telling him what you want from him and what turns you on. To satisfy older guys in the bed, all you have to do is show your sexual desire.

Bring out the toy box

You can also instigate sex by introducing different toys. Nowadays there are so many different things that can and will enhance your sexual experience. Most older guys are open to experimenting and they will like it when you take the initiative to try new things.

Another important thing to remember when you start instigating more sex is that every man likes variation. Men do like a fast and dirty love-making session. For example, you giving him a blow-job when he is driving his car.

But men also like to be seduced extremely slowly. Most men like a slow teasing build-up with strip-tease and lots of back and forth. Give him what he wants and then stop doing it and go back to doing something more innocent.

Surprise him

What no one likes is the same repertoire over and over again. Do instigate sex in the sense that you instigate mixing things up. All older guys will like when you bring a lot of variety to the bed.

If you still thinking about sleeping with tht older guy or not check out our in-dpeth guide Sleeping With A Man 20 Years Older Than Me – Here’s Exactly What To Expect.

A Final Note

Older guys are just like any other guy, they like to be appreciated. They like to please their woman. Older guys like to make you happy and horny, as long as you allow them to do that you are on the right track.