How to make a man cry in bed

A woman’s perspective and best tips

I have a confession to make. My secret talent is making men cry in bed. I discovered my ability early on. When I  was only 19, I made my first man cry in bed. Now I’m 34, and I’m proud to say that I know a lot about how to make a man cry in bed. And since you asked, I will tell you all my secrets.

Just don’t tell me I’m cruel; be aware of what you signed up for.

The crash course to making a man cry in bed:

Ask about his family; the more sensitive information he gives you, the better. Make love to him right after asking those questions.

Harvest his hero instinct by telling him about your problems and asking for help.

Find out something unique about his sexual desire and fulfill his secret wishes.

Make him think he has you, and then tell him he is mistaken.

How I discovered my ability

We were lying on a beach close to Biarritz. I had come there for a holiday. He was visiting from Switzerland and was leaving the following day.

We had driven down the coast, towards Spain, until the stars were visible, and we were alone. We spent most of the night making love. As the dawn drew closer, I asked him what the best thing about his family was. He answered. He talked for a long time.

He told me about his pain

Then I asked what the worst thing about his family was. He answered, shorter this time but with more emotional intensity. When he finished talking, he kissed me one last time and started crying. I held him while he was crying in my arms. The ocean crashed against the sand, and the stars slowly faded as sunrise drew closer.

You can learn how to make a man cry in bed

Since I didn’t have any experience with men or life, I thought this behavior was normal. But apparently, it’s really difficult to make a man cry in bed.

And yet, it is an experience a lot of us women desire to have. To make a man cry in bed makes us feel that we have seen him like no other woman has seen him before. We tap into his most private moment, which gives us power over him. He becomes addicted to us.

I will give you my best tips

Don’t worry; I will be completely honest and share all my best tips and tricks for achieving this. It’s not that difficult. Most men crave female endorsement much more than they think. You can also make men cry in bed.

There are many different kinds of tears. A man can cry with joy. A man can cry over the release of negative emotions. He can cry out of love or cry out of frustration.

Let’s open the floodgate to all of them.

Ask About His Family

This is a great starting point for someone who has never made a man cry in bed. This trick is the same one I used as a young woman and several times after that. It’s my go-to method. You should combine the questions with a lot of passionate sex.

This works because family is deeply personal. Whether you have a great family or a lousy family, it doesn’t matter.

Both scenarios can make you cry.

We can’t escape our family

They are part of our whole being, regardless of whether we want them to be or not. Few people are indifferent to their families.

Our family is deeply personal

Our family is often the origin of our ambition. We are the fulfillment of the dream and hopes of our parents. Our family also comes with a lot of pressure. Exactly the kind of pressure you need to harvest to make a man cry in bed.

Just keep satisfying him and have him talk about his family, preferably shameful things, until he finally caves and starts crying.

Harvest his Hero Instinct

For a short period of my life, I worked as a stripper. By short, I mean weeks rather than months, but I still gained some interesting experiences.

The men were, as you can imagine, pretty terrible. My time in the shower just kept extending until I lost more money on the water bill than I made shaking my boobs.

But I did learn one thing. Men like to play the hero. If you tell him about your struggles, real or imagined, and give him a way to help you. Preferably by giving you money, he will worship you.

The men wanted to help

Many of the stripper girls used this tactic.

They told their clients about eviction orders, abusive ex-boyfriends, and drug deals gone bad. Whatever it took to get more money.

The sob stories were endless, and the men loved them. It made the men feel important. It made them feel that they could make a difference in a beautiful young woman’s life.

Tell him all about your problems

I became a stripper out of curiosity.

My love for dancing made me think stripping would be a viable career option.

I will be honest with you. My figure is the kind of voluminous dream that makes men cry in bed. A lot of times, when I made a man cry in bed, it wasn’t my conversation skill or my lovemaking. It was something as simple as the perfect shape of my body.

Make him cry for you

If you are not blessed the same way, tap into his hero instinct. Do explain all of your struggles, your miserable childhood, and exactly how he can help you. Paint yourself as an innocent angel and the world as an unforgiving hell. Do this in bed. Make love to him.

Find out something unique about his sexual desire

All men have secret fantasies when it comes to sex, fantasies they have never told anyone about. But they do want to share. All you have to do is to ask him.

Don’t only talk about sexual fantasies. Try the things he tells you about. Not many women are open to doing this, so your behavior will have a powerful impact on him. I have participated in threesomes, and group sex and dressed up as all kinds of fantasy girls.

You can check out our article “13 things guys like in bed but won’t ask for,” for more tips.

Making a man cry in bed is not for the faint-hearted

If you want to make him cry, you have to be brave. But the thing with making a man cry in bed is that you need to practice a lot to be able to achieve this.

You need to be the Khaleesi of bedroom battles.

Sometimes you lose a battle, but you will win the war. By the way, dressing as Khaleesi is one way I have gotten a man to cry in bed. Feel free to use that one.

Make him tell you extremely personal things about himself

Give him an orgasm while fulfilling his fantasy.

This should be the kind of orgasm where you do most of the work. Make him feel grateful towards you. After this, you need him to share a strong memory. It should be something painful and shameful.

Preferably from his adolescent years. For many men, this was a difficult, painful period, and thus they don’t spend a lot of time thinking about it. The feelings are still raw.

Focus on his childhood traumas

A lot of us had traumatic childhoods. Some of this trauma is buried so deep within us that we hardly remember them. Make him remember. Make him share.

When you have done this, it’s time to give him a second orgasm. Orgasms are powerful. They are even more powerful if they happen soon after a painful memory.

Make him think he has you, and then tell him he is mistaken

This technique is a blow below the belt, for sure.

I’m a cruel woman, and I guess that’s one of the main reasons, so many men had cried in bed when together with me.

They see my beauty, and they see my ruthlessness and my indifference. This lethal combination can drive anyone to tears. You can do the same.

Just alternate between being hot and cold. Most people are predictable, thank God! Don’t be one of them. Strive towards being completely unpredictable.

Be deceitful

If you want a man to cry in bed, you have to be unreliable. Tell him you will spend time with him and then fail to show up. Give him a roller coaster ride. This is how I have made men cry in bed. A couple of men have asked me for marriage.

I have responded by telling them I’m seeing other men. Richer men. Nicer men. Better-looking men. All sorts of men.

Did I say it would be easy to make a man cry in bed? I guess I was tricking you the same way I tricked all those men.

Be cruel and then give him sex

After you have turned him down and insulted his ego, give him more sex. Better and wilder sex. Be as sweet and physical as ever.

This will confuse and frustrate him, and if you keep pushing this, he will cry in your arms. Men want what is almost within reach. If you tell him that you are breaking up with him, he will cry like a little boy losing his favorite toy.

I guess I should tell you that I’m still single. Always has been. Always will be.

To make a man cry in bed make him feel understood

Did you think the last tip was too devious? I can assure you when it comes to make a man cry in bed; no tips are too devious. If it was easy, every woman could do it.

But OK, I’m going to give you a nicer method to try. It’s simple; understand him. Most people have a deep desire to be understood. And most people are too self-absorbed to be able to give this to someone else.

Make him feel seen

Understand him. But make sure you don’t do this from a weak point. Men can sense weakness. If you understand him but are not sympathetic towards him, he will cry. He will cry because you do care about him.

Check out this article on “How to get someone open up emotionally” for additional tips on how to get closer to someone.

Add sleep deprivation to the mix

You understand him better than anyone has done before. This is not easy to achieve, but it’s doable. With a bit of practice, you will get this. You can use this trick with your boyfriend. As in the other techniques, mix this one with plenty of sex.

You can also add a bit of sleep deprivation to the mix. Another cruel tip, I know. But by playing nice and fair, you will not get a man to cry in bed.

Keep waking him up with more sex

To make someone sleep-deprived takes a bit of time. Just spend a week giving him more sex than he can handle, and combine this with empathic questions that make him open up. Listen with your full presence.

Ask follow-up questions that show you understand him and his situation. Don’t allow him to sleep. Do this with the feverishly of an experienced torturer, and you will have your man cry in bed.

Final Words on how to make a man cry in bed

There you have it, my story, and my best tips for making a man cry in bed.

I trust my wisdom is in good hands.

To succeed, you have to be cruel and manipulative while at the same time making him feel seen and understood.

Go hot and cold

To achieve this, use your body and your sensuality. Give him more sex than he ever had before. Be unpredictable; talk about other men. Undermine his ego. Be ruthless.

And then completely change and be sweet and caring again. Playing on the dualistic side of every love story will make your man cry in bed.

Sounds incredibly cruel, right? Manipulative behavior doesn’t give you stable relations. You can check out everything about manipulation in this article about manipulative behavior.

If he is not crying, move on

If you are unsuccessful with this particular man, take a couple of notes from the encounter and move on. Not only in the sense of moving on to another man, but also moving to another country, to another passion, to another all-night party.

When you try to make a man cry in bed, be prepared to leave and never look back. Men can feel this indifference, which makes them sad because what we all want in life is to make a lasting impression on the people around us.

We want them to admire us. This is especially true when it comes to the people we share beds with. If you, after making love to him, walk out of him without a care in the world, that will make him cry.